If you feel the need to get revenge because of something someone did to you, there are ways to do this without comprising your morals. This means nothing evil, illegal, or devastating. While in the heat of the moment you may feel that you do want to be extremely hurtful, if you are not normally the type to be this way, you will only be hurting yourself.
While thinking revengeful thoughts might feel good, acting upon them does not. This is especially true if you are not normally the type of person to do bad or mean things. You will end up feeling guilty and hurting yourself. The fact is that you end up harming yourself and giving the person you are upset with a boost of power.
By going against your normal morals, you will have given the other person what they want. They have stolen your joy. They have blemished your soul. Even perhaps more importantly, they now feel vindicated. In their mind what they did to you pales compared to what you did to them.
Let it go. This may seem impossible when a person is in the midst of going through it. Yet, if you think about it logically, the one who is most hurt when you let something negative take over is you. You are only hurting yourself and you are giving the other person control. It may help to write down your thoughts and feelings and then throw it in the fire pit in the yard. As the paper burns away, let your anger go with it.
Live your life in a way that makes you happy. Refuse to let the other person steal your joy. In doing this, you are rising above the pettiness. You are getting back at the other person in the best way possible.
What you should be doing instead is live your life in a happy and productive way. Doing this truly is the best way to get back at someone who has wronged you. They do not want to feel that they had no impact on your life. This makes them feel insignificant. No one wants to feel that way. You have taken away all of their power by having no reaction. This will drive them crazy more than anything else that you could have done.
Not only will you be taking away their power, but you will be doing something good for yourself. You will be continuing to live a joyful life. You deserve to be happy. Letting go of the bad and moving on is a way to do this. Learning this lesson and putting it into practice will have a very positive impact on your life.
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